Comfort for Women Who Have Had A Miscarriage
A Message from Pastor Hale
Death is all around us. Martin Luther wrote this short piece to comfort parents who had lost children before they could be baptized. This is not an academic question, since that experience of death is real for a majority of parents. One doctor told me that 40% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, some without even the mother’s knowledge. But miscarriage is a neutral, clinical term. It does not speak of life, humanity, and death – and the curse of sin that brings death to us at any age. 100% of people are sinners and must return to the dust from which they came. There is real sadness and grief at the loss of little children, and there should be. Death is real and it is our enemy – it was not intended by God, yet we all must suffer it. But we have the real Son of God who died for us. His death and victory over sin is our only comfort in a world that is under the shadow of death. We live by faith, and we can be sure God is not angry since Jesus faced our death for us, even for the smallest among us. Christians cannot but have hope. God is good and loving. Christ’s crucified body opens the gates of paradise through His Word, which even the unborn can hear. As we live by His Word, we pray in faith and our God hears us..
It often happens that devout parents, particularly the wives, have sought consolation from us because they have suffered such agony and heartbreak in child-bearing when, despite their best intentions and against their will, there was a premature birth or miscarriage and their child died at birth or was born dead.
One ought not to frighten or sadden such mothers by harsh words because it was not due to their carelessness or neglect that the birth of the child went off badly. One must make a distinction between them and those females who resent being pregnant, deliberately neglect their child, or go so far as to strangle or destroy it. This is how one ought to comfort them.
First, inasmuch as one cannot and ought not know the hidden judgment of God in such a case — why, after every possible care had been taken, God did not allow the child to be born alive and be baptized — these mothers should calm themselves and have faith that God’s will is always better than ours, though it may seem otherwise to us from our human point of view. They should be confident that God is not angry with them or with others who are involved. Rather is this a test to develop patience. We well know that these cases have never been rare since the beginning and that Scripture also cites them as examples, as in Psalm 58:8, and St. Paul calls himself an abortivum [abortion], a misbirth or one untimely born (1 Cor. 15:8).
Second, because the mother is a believing Christian it is to be hoped that her heartfelt cry and deep longing to bring her child to be baptized will be accepted by God as an effective prayer. It is true that a Christian in deepest despair does not dare to name, wish, or hope for the help (as it seems to him) which he would wholeheartedly and gladly purchase with his own life were that possible, and in doing so thus find comfort. However, the words of Paul, Romans 8:26-27, properly apply here: “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought (that is, as was said above, we dare not express our wishes), rather the Spirit himself intercedes for us mightily with sighs too deep for words. And he who searches the heart knows what is the mind of the Spirit,” etc. Also Ephesians 3 [:20], “Now to him who by the power at work within us is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think.”
One should not despise a Christian person as if he were a Turk [Muslim], a pagan, or a godless person. He is precious in God’s sight and his prayer is powerful and great, for he has been sanctified by Christ’s blood and anointed with the Spirit of God. Whatever he sincerely prays for, especially in the unexpressed yearning of his heart, becomes a great, unbearable cry in God’s ears, God must listen, as he did to Moses, Exodus 14 [:15], “Why do you cry to me?” even though Moses couldn’t whisper, so great was his anxiety and trembling in the terrible troubles that beset him. His sighs and the deep cry of his heart divided the Red Sea and dried it up, led the children of Israel across, and drowned Pharaoh with all his army (Exod. 14). This and even more can be accomplished by a true, spiritual longing. Even Moses did not know how or for what he should pray — not knowing how the deliverance would be accomplished — but his cry came from his heart.
Isaiah did the same against King Sennacherib (Is. 37:4) and so did many other kings and prophets who accomplished inconceivable and impossible things by prayer, to their astonishment afterward. But before that they would not have dared to expect or wish so much of God. This means to receive things far higher and greater than we can understand or pray for, as St. Paul says, Ephesians 3:20. Again, St. Augustine declared that his mother was praying, sighing, and weeping for him, but did not desire anything more than that he might be converted from the errors of the Manicheans [who said that all matter, including children and marriage, was evil] and become a Christian. Thereupon God gave her not only what she desired but, as St. Augustine puts it, her “chiefest desire” that is, what she longed for with unutterable sighs — that Augustine become not only a Christian but also a teacher above all others in Christendom. Next to the apostles Christendom has none that is his equal.
Who can doubt that those Israelite children who died before they could be circumcised on the eighth day were yet saved by the prayers of their parents in view of the promise that God willed to be their God. God (they say) has not limited his power to the sacraments, but has made a covenant with us through his word. Therefore we ought to speak differently and in a more consoling way with Christians than with pagans or wicked people (the two are the same), even in such cases where we do not know God’s hidden judgment. For he says and is not lying, “All things are possible to him who believes” [Mark 9:23], even though they have not prayed, or expected, or hoped for what they would have wanted to see happen.
Enough has been said about this. Therefore one must leave such situations to God and take comfort in the thought that he surely has heard our unspoken yearning and done all things better than we could have asked.
In summary, see to it that above all else you are a true Christian and that you teach a heartfelt yearning and praying to God in true faith, be it in this or any other trouble. Then do not be dismayed or grieved about your child or yourself, and know that your prayer is pleasing to God and that God will do everything much better than you can comprehend or desire. “Call upon me,” he says in Psalm 50:15 “in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.” For this reason one ought not straightway condemn such infants for whom and concerning whom believers and Christians have devoted their longing and yearning and praying. Nor ought one to consider them the same as others for whom faith, prayer, or yearning are expressed on the part of Christians and believers. God intends that his promise and our prayer or yearning which is grounded in that promise should not be disdained or rejected, but be highly valued and esteemed. I have said it before and preached it often enough: God accomplishes much through the faith and longing of another, even a stranger, even though there is still no personal faith. But this is given through the channel of another’s intercessions, as in the gospel Christ raised the widow’s son at Nain because of the prayers of his mother apart from the faith of the son (Lk. 7). And he freed the little daughter of the Canaanite woman from the demon through the faith of the mother apart from the daughter’s faith (Mt. 15). The same was true of the official's son, John 4:46-53 and of the paralytic and many others of whom we need not say anything here.
- Published: 09 September 2017 09 September 2017
- Last Updated: 09 September 2017 09 September 2017
- Hits: 325 325